Tuesday, September 06, 2005
And they lived Happily Every After.... or did they?
Was reading a few of my frens blogs and everyone seems centred on marriage and divorce. Kame's blog was writing something about husbands offering public apologies in the Chinese newspapers because of their infidelity. Another fren was writing about a song of unholy matrimony from Rammstein (I have no idea who they are...). And DC was at a poly gathering on Sat afternoon. Apparently one of his female poly mates was divorced for a year already. Which was surprising because she was just married about two years ago when we visited her flat for new year!
What is this world coming to?? (cue black eyed peas: where is the love)
And yet, on the Sunday papers, they were actually covering the Phenomenon called: LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT.
Love at First Sight?? Sounds cliched. Even to me, a die hard sucker for romantic movies! It hasn't happened to me.. (yet?). Even to friends around me, none of them fell in love with their partners at first sight. All of them got to know their other halves through time and got to know their other halves better before taking the plunge. Even for my case.. I only got together with other half after knowing him as friends for more than a year. And even up to till this day, we both scratch our heads and go... how did we end up together?? So the notion comes across as: is it even possible? I always thought it was the stuff in movies, books, the like... but in real life?
But my main grouse is with how the report was written. It seems kinda skewed. All 3 interviews on how they met each other and fell in love, all 3 pairs are doctors! It kinda makes me want to conclude that doctors do not have much social life and hence, when they see a female/male, they fall for them (ok ok... unfair). There was only one which was more credible, being married for more than 20 yrs with 2 kids blah blah. The other 2 interviewees were recently married (after knowing the other for 2 or 3 months btw).
Another point which they failed to highlight was: how many of these love-at-first-sight couples actually stay together? No figures reported. For all you know 90% ended in divorce. And divorce is on the rise.
hmm... wish love was less complicated. Why can't it be simple? Ha ha.. just thought of how love is like during the ages:
Grandfather's time (scenario 1): guy meets girl, girl meets guy (both 7 years old), fall in love, becomes childhood sweethearts, grow up and get married, have kids and live happily ever after
Grandfather's time (scenario 2): guy doesn't meet girl, girl doesn't meet guy, both finally meet on wedding day, have kids, over the years fall in love and live happily ever after
Father's time: guy meets girl, girl meets guy, both fall in love, pak tor for 10 years then get married, have kids and live happily every after
My time: guy meets girl, girl meets guy, guy likes girl, girl likes guy, but girl also likes guy 2, so goes out with both guys. Marries guy, but still sees guy 2. (Please replace girl with guy and guy with girl accordingly for the other side of the story).
So if the love-at-first-sight phenomenon happens to me, I will be sure to tell u.. it will be an interesting experience. Oopss... other half is reading... for the smart ppl, find my other blog!! :) Ha ha ha ha
sigh... gonna turn in now... having major headache.. someone's playing my left & right brain like they were bogo drums...
What is this world coming to?? (cue black eyed peas: where is the love)
And yet, on the Sunday papers, they were actually covering the Phenomenon called: LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT.
Love at First Sight?? Sounds cliched. Even to me, a die hard sucker for romantic movies! It hasn't happened to me.. (yet?). Even to friends around me, none of them fell in love with their partners at first sight. All of them got to know their other halves through time and got to know their other halves better before taking the plunge. Even for my case.. I only got together with other half after knowing him as friends for more than a year. And even up to till this day, we both scratch our heads and go... how did we end up together?? So the notion comes across as: is it even possible? I always thought it was the stuff in movies, books, the like... but in real life?
But my main grouse is with how the report was written. It seems kinda skewed. All 3 interviews on how they met each other and fell in love, all 3 pairs are doctors! It kinda makes me want to conclude that doctors do not have much social life and hence, when they see a female/male, they fall for them (ok ok... unfair). There was only one which was more credible, being married for more than 20 yrs with 2 kids blah blah. The other 2 interviewees were recently married (after knowing the other for 2 or 3 months btw).
Another point which they failed to highlight was: how many of these love-at-first-sight couples actually stay together? No figures reported. For all you know 90% ended in divorce. And divorce is on the rise.
hmm... wish love was less complicated. Why can't it be simple? Ha ha.. just thought of how love is like during the ages:
Grandfather's time (scenario 1): guy meets girl, girl meets guy (both 7 years old), fall in love, becomes childhood sweethearts, grow up and get married, have kids and live happily ever after
Grandfather's time (scenario 2): guy doesn't meet girl, girl doesn't meet guy, both finally meet on wedding day, have kids, over the years fall in love and live happily ever after
Father's time: guy meets girl, girl meets guy, both fall in love, pak tor for 10 years then get married, have kids and live happily every after
My time: guy meets girl, girl meets guy, guy likes girl, girl likes guy, but girl also likes guy 2, so goes out with both guys. Marries guy, but still sees guy 2. (Please replace girl with guy and guy with girl accordingly for the other side of the story).
So if the love-at-first-sight phenomenon happens to me, I will be sure to tell u.. it will be an interesting experience. Oopss... other half is reading... for the smart ppl, find my other blog!! :) Ha ha ha ha
sigh... gonna turn in now... having major headache.. someone's playing my left & right brain like they were bogo drums...
# posted by Xallista @ 11:16 PM 
