Monday, March 20, 2006
Wedding Bell(e)s
I just suddenly realized that it has been 5 years since I graduated from poly. And reality came a-knocking yesterday. It was my poly mate's wedding. So together with Kame, I attended the wedding at rustic Rasa Sayang Sentosa resort. The bride and the groom have known each other for the whole of 7 years (ever since poly year 1)! Wow... in today's context, that's freakin long! But nonetheless, I congratulate them that they finally have this day.
The wedding was also a good time to catch up with a lot of old Poly mates, majority whom I have lost contact with ever since I graduated. 5 years causes a lot of people to change. The biggest shocker was one female poly mate. We all didn't expect her to be expecting (pardon the pun), lest being married so soon! My other poly mates were now working. The guys have completed their NS and were working and studying at the same time. The females were now more mature and mellowed down. It was a fantastic catching up session where half of my year 1 poly class turned up.
As for the bride and the groom, I wish them happiness. They have come a long way. From other case studies, most couples from poly do not last due to drastic changes once they graduate.
1) couples in poly get to meet EVERY day. But things change once they graduate. The females find jobs, the guys go to NS. Couples who manage to get used to the time apart survive. Others just go splitsville.
2) females who are working realize that there are better fish out there and hence tend to stray. Doesn't help that bf is in NS knows zilch about working life and can't be there for them when things go wrong in the office. And that's when the male office colleague comes to the rescue
3) Females who are working become more demanding. Other elements come into play: females earns more than male now. Can the alphamale take it? Can the female accept the NS bf is earning less?
4) Seems that the above few examples are swayed towards females being at fault. Of course there are times that the guy is at fault too. In NS, they learn unsavoury habits, namely smoking and swearing. Some females can't take that change
Yup. In addition to that, the bride's parents are divorced. I usually have 2 opposing theories to how the offspring view marriage. On one end, the offspring are so affected by it that they do not even view marriage as important. Their negativity causes them to think that marriages are never happy. Hence, they can't be bothered with marriage or they are scared to get committed to a relationship, thinking that their own relationship will also be going down the same destructive path. On the opposing end, there are offspring who really work really hard to make sure that the marriage works. These perfectionists do everything within their power to make sure that their marriage doesn't go down the drain like how it did with their parents. Kinda like Bree in Desperate Housewive. But sometimes it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy and the marriage just breaks down. And the blow will be just too much...
Ok, too many negative comments for a happy occasion. I will just shut up now.
The wedding was also a good time to catch up with a lot of old Poly mates, majority whom I have lost contact with ever since I graduated. 5 years causes a lot of people to change. The biggest shocker was one female poly mate. We all didn't expect her to be expecting (pardon the pun), lest being married so soon! My other poly mates were now working. The guys have completed their NS and were working and studying at the same time. The females were now more mature and mellowed down. It was a fantastic catching up session where half of my year 1 poly class turned up.
As for the bride and the groom, I wish them happiness. They have come a long way. From other case studies, most couples from poly do not last due to drastic changes once they graduate.
1) couples in poly get to meet EVERY day. But things change once they graduate. The females find jobs, the guys go to NS. Couples who manage to get used to the time apart survive. Others just go splitsville.
2) females who are working realize that there are better fish out there and hence tend to stray. Doesn't help that bf is in NS knows zilch about working life and can't be there for them when things go wrong in the office. And that's when the male office colleague comes to the rescue
3) Females who are working become more demanding. Other elements come into play: females earns more than male now. Can the alphamale take it? Can the female accept the NS bf is earning less?
4) Seems that the above few examples are swayed towards females being at fault. Of course there are times that the guy is at fault too. In NS, they learn unsavoury habits, namely smoking and swearing. Some females can't take that change
Yup. In addition to that, the bride's parents are divorced. I usually have 2 opposing theories to how the offspring view marriage. On one end, the offspring are so affected by it that they do not even view marriage as important. Their negativity causes them to think that marriages are never happy. Hence, they can't be bothered with marriage or they are scared to get committed to a relationship, thinking that their own relationship will also be going down the same destructive path. On the opposing end, there are offspring who really work really hard to make sure that the marriage works. These perfectionists do everything within their power to make sure that their marriage doesn't go down the drain like how it did with their parents. Kinda like Bree in Desperate Housewive. But sometimes it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy and the marriage just breaks down. And the blow will be just too much...
Ok, too many negative comments for a happy occasion. I will just shut up now.
# posted by Xallista @ 12:19 AM 
