Thursday, September 07, 2006
If Love were Digital, it would so much less complicated
My friend said something today which made me go Hmm... I'm sure it will make many others go Hmm as well:
Fren made this comment: why is it that signals are so hard to interpret? (And by signals here, I do not mean traffic light signals.. duh.. that would have been easy to decipher). Why is it that when sometimes the opposite sex does certain things, I'm certain that he/she is interested in me, but actually he/she is not? Why can't Love be digital. Heck... it would be so much easier. It's a straightforward - Yes or No, 1 or 0.
I laughed along... and I scratched my head. I couldn't agree more. If love were digital.. so much easier. Unfortunately, love is like a time bomb waiting to explode. And that bomb, unfortunately, has many signals, and even more wires... do u cut the red one? the green one? Hey wait.. what about the blue one? You get my drift...
Have you ever been in a situation where the opposite sex treats u extremely nicely? Say, buys this for you; asks about you when your sick; remembers certain important events in ur life blah blah. You might think that the person is interested in you. But actually that person is not. It's just second nature to him/her and quite frankly, he/she may do that to others as well, just that you're not aware of it.
Look at the opposite situation: Have you ever known someone whom you hardly noticed? But if you look back, that person is always at your events, say, basketball match, birthday party etc. Where you are, they are (not necessarily stalking). That person may be interested in you, but drops no hints. The only indication, if you think hard enough, is that they are supporting you whenever they can. Unfortunately, some don't notice and can easily brush it off as friendly support.
Or how about that person who is always at loggerheads with you? Arguing over small things, picking a fight? Ironically, that person could be in interested in you as well. Just that he/she expresses it differently. That person just wants your attention and gets it in whatever way they can, even if it's a negative one.
So unfortunately, there is no clear cut answer on deciphering signals. There's no 10 year series, there's no model answer. One, unfortunately, has to look at it on a case by case basis and figure it out. If all else fails, by all means, ask up front and clear up the air. But, do be prepared if the answer you get is not what you want.
And so the time bomb explodes. You can let it destroy whatever existing relationship there was. Or, you can diffuse the situation by laughing it off. Or you can assure the person that you just needed an answer, and that everything will be fine (and u can go to a corner and lick your wounds quietly...)
Dang, I wish Love were digital... ;p
Fren made this comment: why is it that signals are so hard to interpret? (And by signals here, I do not mean traffic light signals.. duh.. that would have been easy to decipher). Why is it that when sometimes the opposite sex does certain things, I'm certain that he/she is interested in me, but actually he/she is not? Why can't Love be digital. Heck... it would be so much easier. It's a straightforward - Yes or No, 1 or 0.
I laughed along... and I scratched my head. I couldn't agree more. If love were digital.. so much easier. Unfortunately, love is like a time bomb waiting to explode. And that bomb, unfortunately, has many signals, and even more wires... do u cut the red one? the green one? Hey wait.. what about the blue one? You get my drift...
Have you ever been in a situation where the opposite sex treats u extremely nicely? Say, buys this for you; asks about you when your sick; remembers certain important events in ur life blah blah. You might think that the person is interested in you. But actually that person is not. It's just second nature to him/her and quite frankly, he/she may do that to others as well, just that you're not aware of it.
Look at the opposite situation: Have you ever known someone whom you hardly noticed? But if you look back, that person is always at your events, say, basketball match, birthday party etc. Where you are, they are (not necessarily stalking). That person may be interested in you, but drops no hints. The only indication, if you think hard enough, is that they are supporting you whenever they can. Unfortunately, some don't notice and can easily brush it off as friendly support.
Or how about that person who is always at loggerheads with you? Arguing over small things, picking a fight? Ironically, that person could be in interested in you as well. Just that he/she expresses it differently. That person just wants your attention and gets it in whatever way they can, even if it's a negative one.
So unfortunately, there is no clear cut answer on deciphering signals. There's no 10 year series, there's no model answer. One, unfortunately, has to look at it on a case by case basis and figure it out. If all else fails, by all means, ask up front and clear up the air. But, do be prepared if the answer you get is not what you want.
And so the time bomb explodes. You can let it destroy whatever existing relationship there was. Or, you can diffuse the situation by laughing it off. Or you can assure the person that you just needed an answer, and that everything will be fine (and u can go to a corner and lick your wounds quietly...)
Dang, I wish Love were digital... ;p
# posted by Xallista @ 11:56 PM 
